Are you happy?

Think about it. When was the last time you looked at your life and thought,

“Damn it, things are pretty fucking good!”

Be Happy
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Yes perhaps I worry about money more than I need to (I can’t help it, my husband berates me for it all the time) and yes there are unexpected bills that make me think, “C’mon, really?” But on the whole? Things are pretty awesome!

I have two beautiful and healthy children, a great job, a loving husband, amazing friends and family. I have a roof over my head, I have enough money for luxuries (even if not as much as I would like), I can pay my bills. I have a pension plan, I have medical aid and my health is good. My family doesn’t have to go without the things we want very often. Of course we make certain sacrifices, but who doesn’t?

This isn’t a post designed to tell you how awesome my life is and make you feel shit about yours – it’s to tell you to find the good things in your life to be grateful for. We tend to get sucked into the day to day grind – paying the bills, working hard, maybe socialising a little on the weekends – and forget to step back and look at all the things in our lives that we should be grateful for.

If all you ever do is complain, how will you ever be able to step back and see all the good things that are in your life?

There is nothing worse for your health (says me the non-health professional but you know what I mean) than constant negativity. I’m not an ardent advocate of things like The Secret, so I’m not going to tell you that you attract what you put out there, however I do think that constant negativity ends up a drain on your health as well as on the people around you. There’s nothing wrong with venting a little after a long and horrible day, but if all you ever do is complain, how will you ever be able to step back and see all the good things that are in your life?

You hate your job?

You know it’s not going anywhere and no matter how hard you work you’re not going to get a promotion or a pay increase or even a thank you for everything you do? Why are you still there? Stop complaining about it and look for another one. Sure you might have to stick it out for a little longer while you find something else but there is very little worse than being stuck in a job you hate. Would you rather earn more and be unhappy? That’s a decision you need to think about very carefully.

I love my job – I really do – but this hasn’t always been the case. I’ve been in the situation where every day I wake up and think “Ah shit, I have to go to work.” I’m not saying we don’t all have those days, even in the best jobs that happens, but when you wake up and feel that way every morning? Something needs to change, and the only way that’s going to happen is if you do something about it.

My point is – if you’re unhappy make changes

You don’t like your weight?

Firstly unless it’s actually causing you chronic health issues, then it’s probably not as bad as you think it is. I’ve had two children, my body has changed a lot in the last five years! I wish I had appreciated how skinny I was before I had children, but I didn’t. Instead I was still a little insecure, I still wanted to lose just a little more weight. I’ve had it good after two kids I won’t deny this – I didn’t get stretch marks, I lost most of the weight relatively quickly after giving birth – but that doesn’t stop me from being unhappy with my weight and my post-baby body. I am fully aware that this is my own issue, not anyone else’s – I have been told repeatedly how good I look after two children, but there’s always that little voice in my head that tells me otherwise.

The reality is that we could all afford to be a little healthier. It’s not always possible or realistic to say to a working mother “go to gym”. Even going for a run is something that I struggle to fit in. I’m up at 6:30 every morning to get my kids ready for school, then get to work, then I work until 6 and I have to still come home and cook dinner and put the kids to bed. My husband helps me with all of these things but when is there time to go to gym?

Should I be better at exercising? Yes, yes I should. But this is something I’m working on. Perhaps I don’t have time to spend an hour at the gym or go to an exercise class of some sort, but you know what? I could fit in 30 minutes somewhere at home in the evening. 30 minutes a day is the same amount of time (if not less) you spend browsing Facebook while you’re watching TV. Surely instead of screen multitasking I could be exercising while watching TV?

My point is – if you’re unhappy make changes. Do them slowly.

Get into the habit of doing squats while you’re standing waiting for the kettle to boil.

Sign up to a job website that sends you updates about jobs you qualify for.

Stop and watch your kids playing and think about how they find wonder in even the silliest things (as an aside, my eldest son currently plays at being a fighting robot – it’s awesome).

Appreciate the time you spend with your friends and family.

Find the you, you used to be.

Stop caring what people think.

Be happy.





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